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Learned helplessness

It is interesting how our society, tired of finding ways to amuse itself, has decided to become one giant trembling defenseless whining aggregate. Dave Pollard sums it up when quoting Gladwell's article in the New Yorker, where Mr. G says

Learned Helplessness is now thought to play a role in such phenomena as depression and the failure of battered women to leave their husbands, but one could easily apply it more widely. We live in an age, after all, that is strangely fixated on the idea of helplessness: we're fascinated by hurricanes and terrorist acts and epidemics like SARS -- situations in which we feel powerless to affect our own destiny. In fact, the risks posed to life and limb by forces outside our control are dwarfed by the factors we can control. Our fixation with helplessness distorts our perceptions of risk.
I can go on more and say that this learned helplessness is part of the code of this society: kids not allowed to do anything not approved by the omniscient principal, corporations with a permanent CYA policy, a huge military and incredibly powerful country checking every purse in a plane, and so on.
This Learned Helplessness Syndrome is an interesting phenomenon. We gladly surrender our responsibility and entrepreneurship to others, our stewards, that although abusive and clearly taking every possible advantage from us, give an excuse for anything that goes out of control, take away the immense pain that is thinking responsibly and facing, courageously, whatever may happen.

Thus, when somebody else sues a company for making them fat, or lazy, they are being just a blatant example of what the society in which they live is: a bunch of serfs, lacking control over their lives, decisions, attitudes.
And the ones buying SUVs? Not even regaining control: They are being the most frightened of the bunch, getting a big car because they are afraid of everything: This is evident not only in the car industry, but in the pharmaceutics, diet, fitness, coaching and dating industries, to name but a few.
Everything has been decided for you: we know who you should talk to, how, when. We decide whether your pictures can be good, what to say, what to wear. We tell you that it is impossible to lose weight unless you subscribe to our own way of doing so, and of course you can not get a fulfilling job unless you agree to buy our enrichment tapes.

Of course, the answer to this comes by being unruly, rebelling from and confronting ideas, authorities and assumptions. Do stuff, even though you may be tagged as an anarchist, or unpatriotic. Think differently, even though it requires to stop watching Reality Slut II or whatever. Go to a place where your ideas can be debated, examined, and published. Dare to be an iconoclast.

Seeing how everybody loves to be told what to do, it is not surprising to have this presidency ruling this country: this society learned to be told what to do and think.

My friend the Russian was telling me that she hated the extreme control under which Americans live. That there is no freedom.
Beautiful, ain't it?
via Obvious

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This thread is beautifuly written and I can relate. It's exactly the way I felt at my last job. The control freak boss wanted to micro manage the people in the office. She made up rules for spite and I rebelled. Oh not verbally, but by detaching. I showed up, did my job, and made my work day go the way *I* wanted it to go (pleasently). Do some people resent you thinking for yourself? Of course. Someone told me it's like when your not invited to a party and you say,

"Fine, I'm having my own party instead".

Then they look and see how much more fun your guests are having, they resent you. This might be a silly example, but it makes my point. The only people that will admire you being an independent sort, are the ones who aren't threatened by that spirit.

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